Ah the joy of being a Lolita in the twenty first century. I understand that it's not really the "in thing", but why be so rude about it? I don't slag you off for wearing a belly bearing top and skinny jeans do I? So why tell me how to live my life! Honestly, it is expected but still, it takes you by surprise when someone is so horrible to you. In the 6 months that I have worn Lolita, I hav been told in person to...
Kill myself,
self harm,
get a life,
jump off a cliff,
go to hell,
and burn my hair.
I mean come on people!
It, luckily has gotten to the point where I dont give a damn what people say to me. And I want other young Lolita's to know that what they say is meaningless when you know that you have something that they do not. Confidence.
*hugs*
ReplyDeleteI'd like to tell you that it stops, but in about 12 years of being visibly alternative one way or another (mostly Goth, but I had a hippie/bohemian phase and a Steampunk phase, and now I wear Gothic Lolita too, as you know), it's been pretty much constant. Some people are judgemental and cruel, and you just have to get to that point where you /just don't care/ and the good thing is it looks like you've mostly got there. People who say these things are usually either so freaked out by anything from beyond their tiny lives that they react with fear and aggression, or so insecure that they feel that they have to bring others down in order to feel big.
For the most part, ignore them. If they're being obnoxious in somewhere like the mall or something, and are harassing you, tell security. If anyone does anything genuinely threatening or violent, though, tell the police, and get as far away from them as you can.
I admire your composure in the face of the bigoted hateful verbal abuse you have experienced.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE looking at Lolita fashion and wish I were brave enough to wear it out in public.
I have male-modelled and reviewed ladies feminine blouses styled with ladies full brief nylon panties and posted the photos and videos on my blog
in my YouTube videos, and in Tweets on my Twitter. Unfortunately I too have been abused by bigots and have had a number of my photos and videos false-flagged and censored because my gender does not match the gender association of the apparel I was showcasing.